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Have you ever found yourself tongue-tied when you're with a guy you secretly liked?

Have you ever said something stupid and embarrassing to a guy you had feelings for?

Have you ever turned a guy off with a poorly-thought statement or conversation? It's embarrassing, frustrating, and enough to make you regret it for days! If you have the tendency to make these mistakes, don't worry. It happens to the best of us. But here's the thing: I can help you change from a nervous, jittery little girl into a super-confident, witty, and sultry conversationalist.

 First off, let me tell you about:

The Words That Turn Men Off

The following may seem harmless, but done carelessly and continuously, they can turn men off BIG TIME...

Mistake #1 - Talking about yourself too much.

Talking about yourself, how your day went, your opinion on certain issues... normally, these are harmless. But when you do it habitually and without warning, it can grate on a guy's nerves! Stay safe, and talk about yourself only when he asks.

 Mistake #2 - Ranting too much.

Most guys can handle a little ranting from the women they're with. But do it habitually, and they'll want

nothing else but get away from you. Instead of ranting about your problems, ask him for his opinion on them. If he cares about you, he just might give you a great solution. Win-win!

 Mistake #3 - Gossip.

Here's something to keep in mind - when you gossip a lot, the men in your life will start wondering what you say about THEM when they're not around. My advice? Don't gossip about anyone unless you want to help them out!

The Words That Turn Men ON

To get you started, let me teach you the three most basic "levels" of what men want to hear:

 Level #1: Happiness.

 This one's a no-brainer, right? When it comes down to it, no guy wants to hang out with a sad, unhappy, or depressed woman. Even your best guy friend would get tired of it eventually. So first things first: Choose to be happy. It all starts with you. Don't believe happiness is a choice? Just plaster a goofy smile on your face for two full minutes and see if it doesn't lift your mood. Once you've gotten good at being a happy person to talk to, it opens the doors to the second level:

 Level #2: Fun.

 Only happy women can make the jump to becoming "fun"women, too. At this level, you can easily tell great stories, crack hilarious jokes, and simply be what the guys call a "cool girl." They say "the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach." I say the second-best way is through his funny bone. So become happy, then become fun, so that you'll eventually become:

 Level #3: Sultry.

Imagine two guys. They both like you, they both treat you genially and respectfully, and they're both fun to be with. The only difference: One of them talks to you like a friend... and the other talks to you like Casanova.

Who would you choose? Without a doubt, you'll go with the sultrier one. There's something irresistible about a guy who has dignity and integrity... but can also say the words that turn you on. Right?

Guys love that too! 

Guys are INSTANTLY turned on by a woman who's smart, confident, independent, happy, and fun to be with... but can also turn them on and talk dirty, even jokingly.

Imagine you meet a great new guy, and after 5 minutes of chatting, you swap numbers. When you hand him your number, what do you say? "Call me anytime!" is okay, but it's bordering on needy. "Thanks!" is good, but too safe to be interesting. But when you wink at him and say: "Do your worst!" Ahh... now THAT'S sultry! You didn't say anything dirty, and you didn't even need to imply it. But you instantly made him think of sexy, sultry scenarios with you... such as, in this case, having a sexy phone conversation. 

Words like that drive men CRAZY with attraction! Here's another example you might want to try out: If

you're a boss, a freelancer, or even just the supervisor of your department... and a guy you like asks you what you do for a living... tell him, while looking straight into his eyes: "I'm in charge of a department/company/business. I like being on top." Same thing. You didn't say anything dirty, and you didn't necessarily imply anything naughty... but it instantly makes him think of YOU, on top of him. (Rrrawr!) Imagine being able to turn a man on at will.

You can be, and you SHOULD be!

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Great Tips For The Awesome First Date

Saw this great article somewhere and i couldn't help but share. Great tips. Enjoy.

It's almost weird seeing people go on dates these days. By that I don't mean the regular Palms, Ikeja City mall and E-centre outings with
our friends. I mean real romantic time being spent with someone who is attracted to you or vice versa.

First dates give long lasting impressions about the people involved and trust me, you really don't wunna mess that up! Well, I'm talking on behalf of the ladies! :D
Perfect dates are not just about opening the car door or pulling a seat out for her! Guys, most especially because the feeling isn't always mutual, I hope you take these few tips seriously if/when you plan to have a splendid first date with that special lady that makes you go gaga! *wink*

1) Give enough notice:   as you may know, we ladies like shakara, so a guy calling me up for a date few hours before is just bare disrespectful! It's more like booking an appointment an hour before the time of an event. Be official enough to give her enough notice...could be few days before, just to make sure she's available.

2) Let her pick the venue: Ladies usually have a particular restaurant they think serves awesome chinese, or a hang-out they've been willing to visit. But just in case you wanna make the choice, note that we really hate being inconvenient. You don't wuna take her too far away from her comfort zone. Although, some ladies love to explore, I'll advise you to be on the safer side and make her comfortable enough where she wants to be.

 3) Pick her up: When a lady gets back from work/school/wherever on a Friday evening to prepare for a date, you don't wuna take her through the stress of driving over to the venue of the date she's probably not even so interested in. What happens if she's immobile? She gets a cab? A bus?Keke? Or what..okada? *holds laugh*. Just pick her up!!

4) Don't be late: Some ladies don't really care if you stand them up as long as you have a good reason...BUT...the majority who do, do not take it lightly at all no matter your reason! Therefore, PICK HER UP on time and if you've both planned to meet up, be there first. It's rude to keep a lady waiting!!

5) Appearance: You don't have to look over the top or too casual, u can stay in between. Don't look too exuberant, it may put her off (depending on the kinda person she is). Don't be too flashy, it could be really disgusting! Just look presentable enough!

6) Confidence: Be confident but try NOT to piss her off! Some guys could get really cocky when tryna show confidence. Over-confidence can and will put any lady off, so try to have you game on and still be cool at the same time! #SWEG

7) Be Gentle: Try to be gentle with every step and move you take and make! Gra-gra will only kill you. Don't rush her or drive rough. Remember she's a 'queen' and wouldn't want to be rough-handled, especially not on a first date!

8) Pay: Be ready to pay for her meal and stuff! She might suggest to pay but don't listen unless she insists! Be prepared enough! You don't wuna seem incapable!

9) Engage her: Talk to her over the meal. The 'don't talk while eating' thingy can like to wait. Just don't talk with food in your mouth though! You definitely can't engage in discussions at the cinemas so that shouldn't be an option for either of you! Talk about her and yourself equally and crack her up well well!! :D

10) Be modest: Guys, pls, in ordering your meal, be modest! In talking about your achievements, be modest! In letting her know you're attracted to her, be modest!! BE MODEST!

11) Compliment her: Guys we're tired of the 'you have beautiful eyes' and 'I love your smile' remarks! Try some 'Oh! You have dimples' and 'your hair looks great' something off the regular! She spent so much time dressing up and preparing so give her compliments with your eyes! Do NOT stare at her outfit! You don't wanna look like you're only trying to get laid! Eye contact can be really awesome!

12) Just a hug: When you're saying goodbye, do NOT try to kiss her just after a first date! What message are you trying to pass across? She might have agreed to go on a date cos she thought you were cute and nothing more! A hug will do! But if the date was awesome, I guess a nigga deserves some sugar! *wink* BUT let her give you the green light first, if she does, identify it and make the move!

13) Stepping in: Do not offer to step in!! Walking her to her front door is good enough...don't invite yourself in! If she does, she probably wants you around a little longer or needs to be cuddled! *wink* If she does,  DON'T DULL, I repeat, DON'T DULL!!!


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